Series on Combating Manipulative Behavior
This episode kicks off a series on “opposer strategies’ these are strategies that combative, people use when communicating. Bullies use these manipulative strategies, people who want to control and manipulate use these opposer strategies and dysfunctional people use these strategies.
This episode continues our series on “opposer strategies’. These are strategies that combative people use when communicating. Bullies use these manipulative strategies, people who want to control and manipulate use these opposer strategies and dysfunctional people use these strategies.
Have you ever been talking with someone about one topic, and before you know what’s happened you find yourself in a completely different conversation defending some previous action or statement unsure of how you got there? You, my friend, have fallen prey to a manipulators distraction technique.
Feelings, nothing more than feelings. Emotions are a powerful thing, they can motivate us into action, fill us with warm flush feelings of love & adoration, trigger our fight, flight or freeze response before we are aware of it and they have the ability to change our bodies chemistry.
Manipulative people are very intuitive, they are very good at discovering what makes you tick and what your weaknesses are. Or at least what you consider a weakness in yourself. If you don’t like confrontation, they will use anger with you, if you are insecure about your ears, they will draw attention to them.In subtle, and not so subtle, ways manipulative or dysfunctional people will push your boundaries in order to get their way. When you strengthen your boundaries with these people you will experience an extinction burst of the behavior you will no longer tolerate.
One thing that all manipulators have in common is that they use words to obfuscate, influence and control, also known as ‘Magical Speaking’.
Have you heard the tapes between Amber Heard and Johnny Depp?
One thing these tapes make clear, aside from their dysfunctional relationship, is that magical speaking was used relentlessly to control the narrative and to dictate what was “really going on.”