Dang It, I Forgot to Gratitude My Mindfulness!

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the pressure to be calm?

We all want to be the very best “us” that we can be. We want to be mindful, to show gratitude, and be in service to others, live our life’s purpose and manifest a bountiful future.

But then, there are those times that we just want to drink coffee and watch a little Judge Judy (now there’s a woman who calls it like it is!)

So, let me ask you this… when you feel that need to just check out for a bit, do you let yourself actually do it? Do you take a Netflix and…relax day? Do you feel guilty about it? Do you “should” all over yourself and let that override enjoying a little down-time? I should be doing laundry, I should have a morning practice, I should finish that blog post!

Well, let me tell you something that might just make your whole day. You NEED to listen to that little voice inside of you that says “Slow down. Stop what you’re doing and let this body and mind rest. Judge’s orders!”

The guilt we lay on ourselves is worse than the guilt that others put on us. We hold ourselves to a higher standard. We don’t “should” on other people the way we do to ourselves.

No bueno.

Down time, where our mind wanders and our body rests is just as important to ‘you’ as physical activity!

What if you treated yourself with the same kindness, gratefulness, and compassion that you show others. What if you forgave yourself for your shortcomings just as enthusiastically as you celebrate other people’s successes?

What if you stop hiding behind being “so busy” doing what you “should” be doing and maintaining a “zen” attitude and spend some time just “being”, assessing how you feel, what you want to do (and don’t want to do), and what you NEED to do to add fuel to your empty tank so you CAN reach that harmonious life?

The glorification of busy, the trying to be everything to everybody, and the idea that you don’t have time to take a break is a one-way ticket to martyrdom or burnout.

Yeah yeah, all of the meditating, gratitude journaling, manifesting, yoga, and practice being one with the universe is all good stuff (it really is!), but sometimes, you just need to do a bunch of nothing.

So today, I challenge you to stop “shoulding” all over yourself. Wipe yourself clean of “shoulds”, just for a day.

You can’t give anything of yourself if you are living for the “shoulds”. Ask yourself what you WANT to do — even just for an hour or two for yourself — and then do it. Just see what that does for you! Oh… and no guilt, okay?

Don’t sit in your own “should” — get with me today and find out how you can live a happy, healthy life designed by YOU!


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