77 Boundaries & the Extinction Burst Behavior

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Manipulative people are very intuitive, they are very good at discovering what makes you tick and what your weaknesses are. Or at least what you consider a weakness in yourself. If you don’t like confrontation, they will use anger with you, if you are insecure about your ears, they will draw attention to them.

In subtle, and not so subtle, ways manipulative or dysfunctional people will push your boundaries in order to get their way. When you strengthen your boundaries with these people you will experience an extinction burst of the behavior you will no longer tolerate.

In this episode we explore boundaries and ways to strengthen them and how someone may try to get you to change them.

Arm yourself with these 3 tactics to combat the burst when it happens so you can respond instead of react.

What you’ll hear in this podcast:

  • What types of boundaries there are
  • The importance of knowing what your boundaries are with people
  • The lesser known boundary
  • Examples of boundary oversteps
  • What an extinction burst is
  • How we all experience the extinction burst
  • Identifying a boundary overstep
  • What you can do about someone having an extinction burst at you

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