61: A Conversation with a Victim Conflict-Personality Type

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Have you ever found yourself wrapped up in a social media debate with strangers, that leave you feeling wound up, defensive and maybe even a little defeated?

If you haven’t, I’m sure you’ve seen countless examples of back and forth unconscious victim bickering in the comments sections of news outlets, viral posts or in group forums.

In the online world, we often see clear examples of conflict-personality types clashing – whether that be victims, avoiders, perfectionists or pleasers.

And with each type, comes different opposer techniques used while dealing with conflict.

Here I focus on particular techniques used by the Victim, by dissecting a conversation I saw take place online.

I’ll give you some tips on how to protect yourself and not fall into the loop of arguing, attempting to fix, or making someone else happy.

Hopefully, this will prepare you for the next time you are in a conversation that starts to escalate with all the different conflict personality types.

What you’ll hear in this podcast:

  • Different Conflict-Personality Types
  • An analysis of an escalated online conflict
  • Different types of opposer strategies used by Victims
  • What a victim is really looking for
  • How to respond to someone with a victim mindset
  • How to avoid conflict escalation

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