159 Recognize what’s really going on when Blame is an issue

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“Blame is a clever trickster. At its root, blame is a form of fear that helps us avoid accountability for our lives.”

Debbie Ford

Can’t help but wonder why someone refuses to accept doing something wrong, even something small? 

When blaming a person or system, your assigning responsibility for a fault or a wrong. However, feelings of fear or embarrassment can cause someone to go on the defensive and try to blameshift.

It takes personal growth and development to determine why people act and react the way they do. It takes some guessing and is not always black and white. 

Difficult Situations can arise with different people in different situations and it can be hard to figure out what scenario you are in and what approach you should take. The Squad is there to help you navigate these situations.

The Squad Membership works off the four empowered pillars of recognize, reclaim, restore, and refresh. We act and react in a way for a reason, that is why it is so important to understand why someone is going on the defensive and blame-shifting.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

  • The Empowered Pillar Model
  • What blame is
  • Recognizing blame
  • Types of blame
  • When blame is used
  • Fear, shame, and embarrassment 
  • Being shamed
  • Black and white thinking

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