121 A Hidden-In-Plain-Sight Manipulation Tactic

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“I don’t think it means what you think it means” — Inigo Montoya

Have you ever been talking with someone and there is a lot being said, but not much understanding?

Last  week in the Difficult Happens Podcast private FB group, “Community Happens”  (if you haven’t already, please join us), Rachel mentioned someone who got really wordy in conversations and uses “fact  slamming”.

Right away I knew what she meant, but not everyone can see it when it is happening around them, or to them.

On Today’s episode we talk about obfuscation in communication, particularly by using the Red-Herring fallacy. I’ve got some examples of how this plays out in everyday conversations and what you can do to combat it.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

  • What is a fallacy
  • What is Obfuscation and why is it a manipulation
  • Examples of the fallacy being used in different situations
  • Why it is so hard to see it when it is right in front of you
  • Social media posts are a hotbed of the red herring fallacy
  • What is the red-herring fallacy
  • Why is it so dangerous
  • How it stops discourse & true communication in its tracks
  • Why people won’t cop to using it

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