I’m Rubber, You Glue – It’s Not Me, It’s You 103

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“Myths are public dreams, dreams are private myths.” – Joseph Campbell

I’m rubber your glue, your words bounce off me and stick to you. 

Do you remember this schoolyard taunt? I may be dating myself here but this along with a few other needling phrases were common on the West Queen Anne kickball court.

This taunt trickled into my brain this week when a woman I know started accusing me of feeling a certain way when it was clear that she was the one feeling that way.  

Has this ever happened to you?

Someone assumes you think a certain way when that’s not how you think, or accuses you of feeling something you don’t?

Neuroscience reveals that the subconscious mind, which is an information processor one million times more powerful than the conscious mind, is running our behavior 95-99% of the time, your actions and reactions are automatic. So really her reaction was more of a habit.

That means that when someone is projecting their shame, anger or fear onto you, they most likely aren’t aware of it.


What you’ll hear in this podcast:

  • What is projection
  • What are the different types of projection 
  • What to do when someone is placing judgment on you
  • Why when someone blames you, it’s about them 
  • Social Constructs
  • Social order
  • Conforming
  • How to live with less stress
  • Tuning in to your body when under pressure


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